We don’t live in a culture of blessing. We live in a culture of #blessed. #Blessed is attached to anything from a birth announcement to a new boyfriend, a rental car upgrade to barely there bikini shots.
But all it ends up being is a popularity contest where even the best of us can fall into the comparison trap. Reminders that you were supposed to be PRETTY SPECIAL by now. Aren’t you? How’s that weight loss goal going? Perfectly? No, okay. How about your relationship bliss and spiritual perfection? Also amazing? Wonderful.
But rather than have another #blessed moment that reminds us we don’t need to crack the whip or remind us how our lives haven’t turned out like we expected they would.
We need a blessing. A blessing to say, we are loved, loved, loved as we are. And were yesterday. And will be tomorrow.
Our book club pick this month is The Cure for Sorrow by Jan Richardson. It’s a book of blessings, and it falls like a summer rain over the driest times and places in our lives. And though a blessing seems counter to moments of grief and sorrow, the author writes, “a blessing can help us perceive how heaven infuses earth, inextricable from daily life, even when that life is marked by pain.”
So here’s a bit of perfection from Jan Richardson for today, even on the days where the world deems us mild to moderate failures. This is called, “The Blessing You Should Not Tell Me.”
Do not tell me
There will be a blessing
In the breaking,
That it will ever
Be a grace
To wake into this life
So altered,
This world
So without.
Do not tell me
Of the blessing
That will come
In the absence.
Do not tell me
That what does not
Kill me
Will make me strong
Or that God will not
Send me more than I
Can bear.
Do not tell me
This will make me more compassionate,
More loving,
More holy.
Do not tell me
This will make me
More grateful for what
I had.
Do not tell me
I was lucky.
Do not even tell me
There will be a blessing.
Give me instead
The blessing
Of breathing with me.
Give me instead
The blessing
Of sitting with me
When you cannot think
Of what to say.
There is a peace that settles us when we look steadily at the truth, not pretending life is something it is not.
We may never be able to grasp why something happens or why our life hasn’t turned out like we hoped it might. Why we don’t feel very #blessed.
Life is inexplicably hard. And sometimes the only thing that’s possible, is to just bless life’s every present moment–even, and especially the hard ones.
I hope you’re joining us as we’re reading along in Jan Richardson’s book this month for the Everything Happens Book Club. Discussion questions are available if you want to bring this conversation on what it means to be #Blessed into your small group or while grabbing coffee with friends.
Blessings to you, dear ones.
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